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Due to the different living cultures and circumstances, there are always different points of view between parents and us, which inevitably lead to conflict with each other. For parents, “raising children” is a fundamental family virtue, as well as preparing children to be caregiver. For us, “raising children” is a decision that the couple reached a consensus after careful consideration. It is imperative to communicate frankly with our parents on the above issues.
First of all, we may try to explore the value behind our parents. In their concept, “raising children” is a must in their generation. Therefore, it is difficult to understand our struggle to “raising children” in the complex and competitive society nowadays. We are not trying to overthrow our parents, but we can share the challenges and difficulties we are currently facing.
Besides, if parents ask about "raising children", we might start by saying "thank you for your concern". Then we tell them the truth with a respectful and sincere attitude. Moreover, the husband and wife are suggested to talk to their parents respectively about the decision not to "raise children" as soon as possible, so as not to create false expectations.
Sources: Ms. Tsang, Social Worker (Family Service), Hong Kong Family Welfare Society
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