I have my own family but have to look after my mother with dementia. I have part-time jobs during the daytime, which is so stressful. Sometimes, I don’t even have time to rest. Recently, my daughter who is in primary school complained about me, saying that I rarely spend time with her. The relationship between my daughter and me has become estranged. How can I make her understand my situation and give me support?
As a "sandwiched family”, it is not easy to take up all family responsibilities. I believe that understanding from your daughter towards the disease is a mean to give you comfort and support. I encourage you to find a suitable time and environment to talk to your daughter, share with her your situation and difficulties and listen to her concern at the same time. Since children also have the responsibility of taking care for the family, it is recommended that you can discuss how they share the responsibility of looking after your mother. If caregivers want to encourage family members, especially your children in taking caring for people with dementia, you can refer to the tips on the comics produced by us: "Elderly Dementia Challenge (1) Discovery on Early Symptoms" and "Elderly Dementia Challenge (2) The Pressure of Family Caregivers". Through reading comics, it can let them know more about disease.
Source: Ms. Lam, Elderly Services Social Worker, Hong Kong Family Welfare Society